Loving in a Healthy Relationship
Another individual,
seemingly that was made for you,
Like a perfectly fitted glove,
But you do not own that person, which will forever be true.
And that person has no obligation to please you
Or to do as you have commanded,
Because they chose to love you
And regardless of how possessive you feel, they will remain freely unbranded.
“What is does it mean to love someone,
Another human being under the sun?”
“Let's start off with what love is not,
Or rather what makes a relationship rot.”
Love is not taking the reins of manipulation in the palm of your hands
Until you can get the other to go in the direction of our choice
Love is not violating someone’s rights with disrespect,
Hoping to get your heart’s desire, which results in you minimizing their voice.
For violation, manipulation, intimidation, and disrespect are not love
But love is sacrifice, respect, patience, and trust
So to set the record straight, I will tell you what I’ve told my true love
“Because I love you
Time is no longer a ticking bomb
But rather what I pay in exchange to make memories with you
A moment in time so priceless, I hear the tick-tock and stay calm
Being honest is no longer triggers a fear of vulnerability
But rather a necessity to open doors that welcome floods of communication
Waves of transparency
And the hydration of a great connection
Respect is not something that has to be earned,
But an intrinsic gift
Because every human being deserves respect
And my life is no more valuable than yours, do you catch my drift?
Patience becomes a regular practice,
When hearing your thoughts and understanding your ways
Is more important than rushing from point A to B.
I can meet you at the finish line with no delays.
“you have no reason not to Trust me” is no longer something that I need to be told, I’m sold!
Your actions are the proof that makes your words true,
The evidence that I can put my fragile heart in your hands,
Without you squeezing too hard, and poking or prodding till it beats how you want it to.
Because I love you
Sacrifice is no longer a chore,
But rather a delightful blessing
to know that giving up something meniscal could make your heart feel sore.”
The reciprocation of my love, respect, honesty, trust, and sacrifices
Is what makes the relationship healthy.
The favors we do no longer come with a list of prices
But rather the list of why we love each other becomes quite lengthy.
-Maya Beckham