i never knew how to respond
To the snide comments
The passing remarks
The constant reminder that i was “getting a bit pudgy”
How can you respond when they are coming from your mother?
The woman who is supposed to love you no matter what
What you are
What you look like
What you believe
But i felt these remarks deep in my bones
i felt these remarks when i decided that it was okay to eat only carrots for a week
Because looking in the mirror always made me feel weak
Until one day, everything changed.
My sister one day, stopped and explained.
“She has her own issues, it’s not about you”
i broke down, and she did too
She told me her story, and her everyday struggle.
She made me feel like i was not alone in this fight.
She gently reminded me
That parents are people too,
And although it is never right to project emotions
My mother was simply trying to set her own healing in motion.
So I finally understood the remarks and reminders
And at times, my mother should have been kinder,
But my body image should never depend on her.
My sister changed my life forever, with that simple reminder.