"Sometimes they come out so gay, they're flaming."

This was the joke my mother said to our family members when they decided that their opinion mattered in someone else's marriage.

I remember listening in as my body curled around Gatsby, as my uncle says "They can have a partnership if they want, but don't call it marriage. That is a holy thing."

I couldn't help but wonder when marriage became synonymous with religious. Sitting in City Hall to get a marriage licence only feels like church because of those perfect identical rows. But it's far less filled with bigotry these days, I have noticed. 

Marriage, they say, is suppose to be holy; so let me tell you this: If given the chance I will treat your body like a chapel. I will praise you every Sunday from dawn to dusk with the lips I use to pray. On my knees while you scream out to God. I hope that is holy enough to please them.

I want to love like my grandmother, who loved a woman like Joseph loved Mary. Someone so imperfect, so human, brave enough to love someone who already knows God. But they were never allowed in a church as they truly are, these two women, who helped raise my mother. It makes me think how much a child can betray someone's memory.

I sat there curled around Gatsby, thinking how this family raised me to be nice and quiet, but on Sunday all I hear is noise. Screams to God for forgiveness for their sins. But I am not screaming with them. I know that God cannot be found in a congregation, but in the humanity of another.

Love sounds a lot like God these days, and I hope that my love is enough for you.



That was truly amazing. You strike a powerful note in those across the world who are condescended  for their "unnatural love". I definitely related to this myself in come ways in coming to terms with my own sexuality and I especially loved the line "If given the chance I will treat your body like a chapel. I will praise you every Sunday from dawn to dusk with the lips I use to pray". Your writing is incredibly passionate and full of strength; with a voice so talented you should keep writing more!!!


I love this!! thank you so much

Grant-Grey Porter Hawk Guda

Powerful expression. Always let poetry fill your life. Keep expressing your heart.  

Charles Muchori

This is good, true... authentic. I notice you haven't written in a while. That's a bummer because you have mad talent. Keep sharing your poetry with the world. We need it.


Love the exposure of hypocrisy

Glory Afriyie Appiah-kubi

Love this poem

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