What Women Deal With Daily
I used to wear headphones when going for a walk
But this was before I was beeped at, whistled at, shouted at, stared at
Now I stay vigilant, I stay aware
I feel like an owl, twisting and turning my head to make sure I’m not being followed
Don’t get me started on walking alone at night
I have given myself a curfew, even before my mother had to
Because even though she knows the dangers of a small, young girl being alone on a dark street
I know now, too
I know, through experience, that I have to keep myself safe
I don’t always wear what I want to
Because in eighth grade, my best friend was assaulted when wearing shorts and a t-shirt
In ninth grade, my cousin and I were honked at when we were both in leggings
Last year in tenth grade, my friends who I care about so much, as well as me
Were grabbed, touched, held, stroked, crooned at, called pet names
By strangers, absolute strangers
Sometimes even by people we thought were friends
There is a complex in this world that women are raped because of what they wear
If I get sexually assaulted
I don’t want my woes to be brushed off just because I was wearing a crop top
Somebody asked me out recently
Three times
I turned this person down
Three times
No, you are not “this charming man” you paint yourself to be
You are scaring me
Persistent, insistent, resistant against my pleas for you to stop
I now fear that I will face the consequences
For not adhering to a man’s wishes
I am only 17 years old
And already by this young age
I fear wearing headphones when going for a walk
Because I won’t know what’s coming at me
I fear wearing something “risqué”
Because my body is apparently just for men’s gratification, they see risqué as an invitation
I fear not doing what a man wants
Because he will do whatever it takes to have what he desires, even if it is detrimental to me
Please just tell me, tell me
Why do I have to change what I do when my actions are not the problem?