We all have these desires, aspirations, wants, and expectations for our love. But we fail to that we need those characteristics for ourselves. We need to learn that in order to have success in our relationships, one must be ready, mentally, emotionally, and physically. If not, then it is like going into the world not remembering how to tie your shoe. If one has to keep asking for help on how to do it then they have failed themselves. One needs to learn to be a strong, intelligent, independent human being.