What is abuse?

Is when a man pull you by your hair not considered abuse? Is when a man twist your arm to a point of extreme pain not abuse? And when he strangles you not considered abuse? 

Does he have to hit you and leave you black and blue then will call it abuse? Do you have to have broken bones until we call it abuse? Do u have scars for them to hear your cry for help? Do you have to die first  by his hands and then will call it abuse?

When wil you hear my soul crying for help, Mother?