
When Girls Are Supposed to be Boys
1. I was supposed to be a boy.
Doctor’s conceptions and my family’s history stated
That only two girls had been born into the Shepardson family in three generations.
I was going to be a boy.
When my parents got their ultrasound they didn’t bother asking what the sex was.
My name was going to be Kyle.
On a note, scribbled quickly on the edge of a piece of paper that my parents kept when they were picking names, was one girl out of seven boys.
Katelyn.
I wasn't born a boy.
My parents took this surprise in stride and raised me right.
It’s a good thing they have a sense of humor because I was the first of three girls.
When I was growing up, my parents tell me I was neither a tomboy nor a girly girl.
I liked wearing dresses and having “brunch” with my dad.
But if you asked me what fairy tale character I wanted to be I usually said
Robin Hood.
I was six the first time I ever punched someone with the intention of bruising.
He said that girls weren’t stronger than boys
To this day:
I remember what my knuckles hitting his collarbone felt like.
My teacher reprimanded me saying, “Young ladies don’t hit.”
When I was nine I had a dream that I was crawling up into my parents bed
I rested my cheek on my father’s warm arms and he patted my head and sleepily said:
“Go to bed Kyle. Go to bed.”
In my nightmare he didn’t remember what he had said the next morning.
By the time I was ten I refused to wear dresses.
Instead of putting Kyle to sleep, I let Katelyn slip into daydreams with lullabies.
Nourishing her on old fairy tales like sleeping beauty and snow white.
Letting Kyle pick the fights.
She got to sleep in until I was nearly 15.
To this day:
I don’t like taking naps.
2. Just Some Facts
Fact: The first time I had an emotional breakdown around one of my friends he asked me if I was on my period.
Fact: Women make nearly half a million less than their male counterparts over the course of their careers.
Fact: 1 in 3 women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetimes.
Fact: An article on Psychalive.org stated: “Women develop a victimized approach to life in order to maintain their powerlessness. Therefore, rather than assert themselves to achieve their goals, they manipulate their mates with indirect maneuvers such as weakness, helplessness and emotionality.”
Fact: I am not a victim.
Fact: I Am Female.
Fact: I shouldn't have to apologize for being born.
3. “It is a generous deed to bury a female child”
93,000 girls are “missing” from Armenia
The single best predictor of a state’s peacefulness is not money or democracy.
It’s how well women are treated.
60 million girls are “missing” from India
A survey of Indian abortion clinics found that out of 8,000 cases 7,999 aborted babies were girls.
90million girls are “missing” from China
If a woman doesn’t produce a son she is a failure.
500 Chinese women commit suicide every day.
200million girls are “missing” from our global population
Don’t tell me is this going away,
When there have been 539 baby girls missing every day since 1990.
Don’t tell me this is going away.
That society is growing up,
When 200million girls will not.
This is what happens when girls are supposed to be boys.
Comments
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clichesandclassics
wow. I was blown away! amazing!!
-by the way, my name's Katelyn too.
This is so powerful. You have a beautiful way with words and I love that you used them to share a problem that is very close to my heart. Thank you for sharing this.
JD
This was beautiful and powerful. I am a female with the name Jessie, and I was suppose to be born a boy too. Whenever I meet someone they ask, "Is that short for something?" "Is your real name Jessica?". It's rather frusterating.
If I could stand up and applaud you right now, I most definitely would. That was powerful and effective. Thank you.
I wish I could write a comment that would express just how much I loved this poem. But, such words haven't been invented yet to do it justice, so I suppose I'll just go with the first thought that popped into my head: Wow, this is amazing.
kfc1997
Fantastic job. The structure made the words hit home. Where did you find those facts? They were absolutely heart-wrenching. From one Katelyn to another: Amazing. Always be yourself and please keep writing.
~Katie from Cali
de_connolly
Incredible. The structure is beautiful. This topic is very close to me. Great work!
naedae1
This is crazy!
iml16
That was just absolutely wonderful. It is very disappointing that the ladies of our world have been viewed as worthless pieces of trash. The term "missing" that many countries use is their euphemism for murder. Us girls must stick together and show this world that we are surely force to reckoned with no matter how they treat us. We can conquer anything. :D
Grace Phillips
Wow. Why let Kyle do the punching? Katelyn packs a bigger wallop than he ever could. Good, solid facts (especially the one about abortions being of girl babies, which nobody ever wants to admit), eye-opening verse. Everyone should read this. Thank you, Katelyn, for being raw and honest about your personal story (and doing your research thoroughly).
TDavies95
*Please read all of my comment before responding.
I loved the drive and structure of the first portion of the poem, but personally don't enjoy the second part, with the facts. The third shows just as many 'facts' in a more poetic way(even free verse is poetic but the second part is just pedantic) but presenting them to people as you do in the second portion is unneccesary. What really bothered me was the "an article on....." It's a unique style, sure, but compared to the lyricism and grace shown in the other two portions, it detracts from the experience. I even liked the first line of it, but the quotation is what drew it over the top. Perhaps the intention is to take the reader out of the experience a bit, to experience cold facts, but I just think it's a step too far. Very empowered though, and you speak with such a real and frank voice. This is all just personal opinion, overall I was impressed by the creativity and message, just a bit offput at times by certain structural choices. To each their, own.
With the best of my intentions, and regard,
-W.B. October (Tim Davies)
Macknificent14
Very driving and empowering!
kalyn_steward
I'm speechless, this is.. wow.
mind blowing!
ellelli
Damn. I felt the power of this piece gradually building up, and I think that is one of the hardest things to achieve in writing. Your power over emotion is something to speak of, great job. :)