Because I Love Me
I’m waiting for you on a cold night in January
My hands are shaking, fingers turning to frost
You’re late by an hour and a half
But that’s ok, because I love you.
You finally pull up
I hop in the black Nissan
You acknowledge me
But you don’t give me the warm hug and smile
I’ve grown accustomed to
I accept it even though I want more
Because I love you.
I don’t bring up that one girl whose picture
You put on instagram
The picture where the two of you are smiling at a breakfast table
Because I’ve already brought it up in the past
And you’ve told me over again
That she’s just a friend
Although I don’t believe you
I believe you
Because I love you.
We drive and drive
You focus on the road
The darkness envelopes us
We’ve been driving for hours
Still going without a destination
Like the years we’ve known each other
Like the kisses we’ve shared
The places we’ve touched
The futures we’ve spoken of
I stay patient, because I love you.
I don’t remember much more of that night
Except your lips on mine
Your hands on me
Your eyes looking at mine
I will remember you say
You love me
And I say it back with a tear in my eye
Because I love you too.
Months pass
You’ve ignored me
I haven’t seen you since that cold night in January
I replay in my mind the first time you kissed me
On the Chicago beach on labor day two years ago
I remember the way you would listen to me cry about my father passing away
How you checked up on me after I had a panic attack
How you told me you were proud of me for being on the honor roll
And how you told me I was brave and strong
I still think fondly of those times
Because I love you.
But I feel lost
Hurt
empty
I feel ignored by the man I have loved the most
I feel hurt by the man I have loved the most
I thought I finally knew what it meant to be in love
I thought this is love
You are love
So I give you space
Because I love you.
I finally message you after months
I say that I’m taking back that one time I said sorry
I’m not really sorry
I was woman enough to mean what I said
I was woman enough
Because I love me.
I tell you I forgive you
I tell you I know I’m not the one in your heart
I ask you if we can be friends
I say this because I love me.
You tell me honestly
That you loved my body
And you don’t trust yourself
To not pressure me
To doing things I don’t want to.
I tell you thanks for your honesty
maybe we should go our separate ways again,
I say this because I love me.
I cry right after I say this
Not because I was expecting a different response
Not because I was upset at your response
Not because I expect you to change,
I cry because I still love you.
I let myself cry
I let myself cry for a little while
Knowing that I have a right to my feelings
I have a right to feel the hurt that I do
Knowing that I have the right to still love you,
I let myself cry because I love me.